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"The Past I Want to Erase" Gets in the Way

There are times when you want to be a shining self, live a sparkling life, or have a strong desire to act, but can't take any action. One of the things that prevents people from acting is painful experiences and bad memories of the past.

"The Past I Want to Erase" Gets in the Way

If you have such a “past you want to erase” that you do not want to experience such a difficult experience anymore and you want to forget those unpleasant memories, people are afraid to act.

Isn't that going to be the experience of that time, or will it be that bad feeling again? If you think that way, even if you start taking action to make yourself shine, you will gradually become more anxious and unable to move forward.

The subconscious is mysterious.

The more you forget about the past you want to erase, the more you will be swung into that past. When the situation is very similar to the “past you want to erase”, you feel frightened and want to escape from it with all your might.

Often, the "past" hinders self-reformation when trying to erase or forget the past.

In order to become a shining self, you must reconcile with the "past you want to erase" that hinders you from shining. Rather than trying to erase or forget that past, it becomes friends with the past. Making friends with the past can change the way you look at the past.

If you can't be a shining self, the "past you want to erase" may be in your way in some way.

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Why You Can't Shine

Unclear Destination
In everyday life, you may suddenly envy others. That person looks bright and shiny. That person looks very joyful and happy. When you think so, your situation may feel miserable.
Inconspicuous because Stained with the Surrounding Colors
There are people who want to be shining, but do the opposite. They think in the same way as the people around them, do the same thing, do not seem to be noticeable at all.
Make Limits Yourself
There are people who want to be shining, and never change. They always want to change themselves, but they just step on it. And they can't change themselves forever.
Habits of the Person or Family
Why do you want to shine brilliantly but make an effort, but cannot easily shine? What is the reason why you want to change and spend your days without change?
Input Too Much Information
We live in a highly informatized and complex society. With the Internet added to the traditional information media of newspapers, magazines, and television, the world is in a state of inundation of information.
"The Past I Want to Erase" Gets in the Way
There are times when you want to be a shining self, live a sparkling life, or have a strong desire to act, but can't take any action. One of the things that prevents people from acting is painful experiences and bad memories of the past.

Steps for Yourself to Shine

What You Want to Be
We want to shine, We want to be shining. So let's do our best for self-realization. It is very good to make that decision. Just a little decision can change your life.
Determination and Courage
If you can imagine your glittering self and your future self as a goal, you only have to go straight toward it. However, even if you make a decision, it is difficult to move in that direction.
Shuts Out Noise
Set goals and decide to be shining yourself, take the courage to take a step, and shut out the extra noise. To get straight to your goal, it's important that you don't listen to anything else you need.
Polish
Things don't shine because they're not polished. People do not shine because they are not polished. Various things shine when we remove dusts and polish. With just a little polishing, you can transform yourself in a way that you can mistakenly recognize.
Creating Winning Patterns from Failed Experiences
Even if you try to start something, it doesn't work at first. If you are not used to it, you will only fail. If you continue to make mistakes, and you don't progress easily, you may lose confidence and feel depressed.
Wipe out the Dark Shadows of the Heart
You must be careful not to leave dark shadows, such as hatred for others or resentment of your situation, in order to be a glittering self. If dark shadows fall on your heart, wipe them clean.
Stand out Even if Hated
To be a shining self, you need to stand out. Attention is paid to many people, and the more you take your gaze, the more the people will shine. Being prominent, even when hated by others, is an important step to shine.
How to Invest Yourself
Self-investment is indispensable for becoming more self-sufficient in order to become oneself. Starting with learning, there are many ways to invest in self-realization, such as studying at a vocational school, training with apprentices, or studying abroad.

For Self-realization

Exciting at Any Time
To be a shining self, it is important to always be positive. If the feeling is positive, the expression naturally becomes brighter. People around you think you're a bright person, and they start to look brighter and brighter.
Image to Become the Sun
Be a shining self, to be like the sun, which keeps the people around you lighted. The sun emits energy and emits light to its surroundings. It shines with brilliant energy when viewed directly.
Become Happy
In order for a person to shine, it is important that he or she feels happy. In order to keep shining forever, think about how to make yourself happy and take the initiative for that.

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