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Family Maturity Theory --- Mutual Help

Mutual Help

Home is a place of mutual help. At home, people learn and practice helping each other. People can survive by helping each other. What does it mean to help each other, and how can we help each other to create a better home? Isn't the intention to "help" just an unnecessary meddlesome? People learn better "helping each other" at home. Learning to help each other is learning how to live.

Mutual Help

Humans are not creatures that live alone. As long as we belong to a family and a society, we always need someone to help us. It is natural to help others because we are living with the help of others.
Since people have to help each other in society, it is natural for families to help each other at home. Family members should not fight or pull each other's legs. The home is first and foremost a place to learn how to help each other, a place to practice it, a place to appreciate it, and a place to teach it.
Mutual help is about helping each other rather than asking for anything in return. It cannot exist without deep love and trust. Helping each other is hard to do with someone you can't trust. Even among families, if one side only helps the other and "mutual help" is not established, the relationship will eventually collapse.
Some people are simply imposing their meddling with the idea that they are "helping". To "help" is to gently support a person when he/she would fall down without support. To go out of your way when you can manage it yourself is just "unnecessary intervention" and "imposition of kindness." Doing so may end up doing more harm than good. Even if the person himself "intends to help", in reality he is not supposed to help at all.
What would be a better way to help each other? Home is the best place to learn it. By learning how to help each other at home, you can really help people in society. To learn to help each other is to learn the human heart, and to learn to live. Living by helping each other is the essence of life, and being able to help each other well is an important requirement for living in society.

Home Basics

At home, it is extremely important to have a solid foundation for life. If the foundation is not solid and the family cannot live a decent life, it is disqualified as a family. In addition to food, clothing and shelter, and child rearing, the family is expected to provide peace of mind and mental stability. Building a better family requires a solid foundation, not only materially and financially, but also mentally.

A Harmonious Home

A home should be harmonious. In a home where skirmishes and strife ensue all the time, the family spirit is devastated. In order for the family to be mentally stable and develop better, it is necessary to have a harmonious family. What should I do to make the relationship between husband and wife, parent and child, and siblings harmonious? What should we do to create a harmonious family? Also, what should we stop doing?

A Place of Training

A home is a training ground for a person. As children grow up, they learn the importance of the basics of life such as food, clothing and shelter, human relationships, social rules, money laws, and how to use words at home. As an adult, you will train at home while experiencing marital life and child-rearing. And even if you become an old man, you will train at home while being aware of the impending death. People continue to practice "at home" all their lives.

Household

Maintaining a home costs money. In order to maintain a home, we must maintain a balance between income and expenditure. In other words, to keep the household finances in order. Having a solid household budget is also important to solidify the foundation of the family and create a better home. In order to create a better home, it is important to learn about household finances as a person.

Keep Clean

A home is a place of life. As you live, the space becomes more and more dirty. If people continue to live in a dirty space, they will gradually become unhealthy and become more susceptible to mental illness. Keeping your living space clean is important for the physical and mental health of those who live in it. In order to become a better member of society, people must learn the importance of maintaining cleanliness while running a family life.

Be Safe

Home should be a safe place. Not only can you protect yourself from foreign enemies and disasters, but it is also important to prevent accidents and incidents from happening at home. We will eliminate factors that impair safety and teach children the importance of living safely. It would also be desirable to have a space that would allow them to live safely in the event of injury, illness, or old age.

Home Efficiency and Tradition

A home is a place where people take nourishment, purify their mind, body and clothes, rest, interact with their families, and refresh themselves. In order to maintain a home with a limited budget and time, I would like to make my home more efficient. However, preserving old traditions, which may seem inefficient at first glance, is also important in order to maintain a family.

Love and Gratitude

Home is where people learn the importance of love and gratitude. Unhappy are those who have not learned what love is and why it is important to be grateful. A happy family is filled with love and gratitude. For better character development, it is important to know more about love and gratitude. As you continue to learn about love and gratitude, teaching each other as a family matures the family.

Home Education

At home, we have to teach what school can't teach. First of all, let's decide the rules and manners as a member of the family and educate everyone. Then, I will teach you how to deal with various life crises, how to maintain your physical and mental health, how to process information such as news and gossip, and other important things in life. Let's leave behind wisdom and pass it on to our children and grandchildren.

Home Health

A home must have an environment, ideas, efforts, and cooperative relationships that allow the family to live in good health. Only when the whole family is healthy can you live a bright and positive life. It is necessary that the home, furnishings, and various other environments consider the health of the family. Furthermore, it is important for each member of the family to try to live a healthy life and to support each other so that other members do not fall ill.

Eating

Eating is necessary to live. However, for humans, eating has an important meaning that goes beyond mere nutritional support to sustain life. Eating together as a family is an important act that reaffirms the warmth and security of the home, as well as the bonds of the family. It is also an important ceremony for families to work together to cook and clean up after themselves. Eating plays a very important role in the maturity of the family.

Family Prosperity

If the family is prosperous, each member of the family will be happy and happy. We cannot hope for the prosperity of the family if the family is quarreling and pulling each other's legs. For the family to prosper, all members of the family must unite, work together, encourage each other, and strive for prosperity. Good teamwork is essential for a prosperous family, along with a good sense of purpose.

Household and Money Management

Money management is important at home. Poor money management can lead to financial difficulties. In addition, it is important to save money on a regular basis to prepare for large expenses in the future. If possible, I would like to find ways to increase my income and reduce unnecessary expenses. How you manage your money can make a huge difference in your family's future.

Role of the Family in Society

The family has many roles in society. There is a role to prepare for going out into society and to nurture them so that they will not get into trouble after going out into society. It plays a role as a place of relaxation to relieve social stress and to exchange honest thoughts that cannot be said outside. The family is not in conflict with society, but can cooperate and work together for the betterment of society.

Home and Work

Someone has to support the family. There are jobs inside and outside the home to support the family. Inside the home, there are jobs such as cooking, laundry, and cleaning, and outside the home, there are various social activities and jobs that support the family financially. A family can be maintained through the work of the members of the family that make up the family. The work of the family supports the family. The home is also where families learn how to do work and what it means.

Illness/Disaster/Parting

There are hard times in the family. It's hard when a family member is sick, when the whole family is hit by a major disaster, or when you have to leave your family. If possible, I don't want to do hard things, but at the same time, I have to be prepared for when hard things happen. Also, family love and bonds are tested to see how much they can support each other when hard things happen.

Mutual Help

Home is a place of mutual help. At home, people learn and practice helping each other. People can survive by helping each other. What does it mean to help each other, and how can we help each other to create a better home? Isn't the intention to "help" just an unnecessary meddlesome? People learn better "helping each other" at home. Learning to help each other is learning how to live.

A Mature Family

Let's mature the family. Let's make the home a better place for character building, a better place for mutual help, and a better place for love and bonds. Let's create a healthier, brighter, and more prosperous home. Continuing efforts to create happy families while cooperating with each other will help develop communities and societies, as well as prosperity of nations.

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