March 2023 15th issue: Three Points to Expand Children's Possibilities
1. Create an Opportunity for Interest
The role of adults is to create opportunities for children to be interested in various things. If children are interested in something, they will want to know more about it or want to be able to do it. If children themselves are curious and motivated, they will absorb knowledge, improve, and demonstrate their talents at an amazing speed. On the other hand, if you force them to do things that they have no curiosity nor desire to do, they will not learn, improve, or demonstrate their talents.
Many of those who have passed the bar exam have had experiences in their childhood that inspired them to become interested in the profession of "lawyer". For example, when they were in elementary school, they were taken to the courtroom, or their parents and relatives were lawyers and taught them about their work. It seems that some of them have had quite a difficult experience, such as their parents being involved in a trial.
If there is no reason to be interested in the profession of "lawyer" as a child, the possibility that the child will try to challenge the bar examination in the future will be considerably reduced.
It is important for adults to give children "an opportunity to become interested" in order to expand the future possibilities of children.
2. Engaging them in a game-like way
Many children like games, but they dislike studying.
But not really. Children love to have fun. It's not that children don't like studying, it's that they don't like things that aren't fun.
If a child doesn't like studying, it's because studying isn't fun. In particular, the study that adults try to force is so boring that they don't want to study.
If you want your child to study, make studying fun.
The point is "game feeling". Engage your child in a game-like way to keep them interested.
Children will study enthusiastically if they can get them enthusiastic as if they were playing a game.
Of course, the same thing can be said not only in studies, but also in sports, music, art and programming.
3. No interference nor expectations
When a child becomes interested in something and becomes enthusiastic about it, there are some things that adults need to be careful about. It means that adults should not interfere or expect anything.
Even though children are enthusiastic, it is no good if adults interfere. Adult interference kills children's motivation and willingness.
When your child is working hard, let it go. Never expect. Excessive expectations from adults only become a burden for children. If you start to care about your parents' eyes, your child won't grow.
The best course of action as an adult is to not interfere or expect anything to expand the possibilities of a child. If children are interested and enthusiastic, there is nothing adults can do except to let them do as they please without interfering.
When your child is worried or at a standstill, give them advice. But otherwise, adults should have no interference or expectations.
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