July 2026 Part 2: Praise and flatter to make them happy
People have sometimes good moods and sometimes bad moods. When they're in a good mood, they're more likely to listen to others' opinions. When they're in a bad mood, they're more likely to resist the opinions of those around them. When you ask someone to do something, their actions can vary greatly depending on whether they're in a good mood or a bad mood.
When you ask someone to do something or want them to take action, you must be mindful of their mood.
Before making a request, start by praising and flattering the other person. When trying to get someone to act, praise and flatter them to put them in a good mood. Then, once you've confirmed that they're in a good mood, talk about what you want to ask them to do.
People with high pride or a strong need for self-display particularly dislike being ordered around. Those who want to believe they are always right are unwilling to listen to others' opinions. Even if it's a good suggestion, some people don't want to admit that they are following someone else's opinion.
Therefore, when you want someone to do something for you, or when you want them to act immediately, it's risky to just blurt out your request. Even if your request is legitimate and desirable, the other person might refuse if they're not in a good mood.
First, praise them. Flatter them and put them in a good mood. Only start discussing your request once they're in a good mood. The more urgent the action you need, the more important it is to put them in a good mood so they're more likely to listen to your request.
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