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Nature of Human Mind

There is another reason that active listening is being focused at mental counseling. People do not say truth in deep mind easily on conversation, since they guard themselves against others. And, speaker is influenced by what listeners say immediately.

Actually everyone knows, but does not try to understand ... that is the essence of human psychology

Human obscures his/her thoughts immediately by listening to the opinions of others. This is unconsciously, but often seen in daily life. Human hides his/her thoughts because his/her opinion would be a shame after being said by others. Once the thoughts are hidden, they will not appear easily.
You, active listeners! Do not say your opinion easily, until speaker opens his/her mind and speaks everything.
It is important to produce environment, atmosphere that speaker feels he/she can speak everything, so that you can reach to the true cause factor of speaker's trouble. That is comfortable, friendly, and heartwarming environment that speaker can put out everything in his/her mind.
As for active listening, listener listen actively being interested in speaker. The listener does not block the words, does not conclude in a hurry, or does not push back listener's opinions. Just accept speaker and continue listening actively.
Active listening produce ideal environment that speaker can open mind and speak everything. Active listening is effective methods that is considering nature of human mind.

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About Active Listening

Definition
Active listening denotes listening method actively, being interested in, and accepting opponents' speech so as to listen until deep contents of speakers mind. Active listening is one of the counseling techniques.
Why Active Listening?
Why active listening now? How come does active listening technique spread as effective mental counseling technique, or as means of voluntary activity?
Nature of Human Mind
There is another reason that active listening is being focused at mental counseling. People do not say truth in deep mind easily on conversation, since they guard themselves against others. And, speaker is influenced by what listeners say immediately.
Distance, Posture, and Body Action
Active listening is to listen actively to the story the speaker says. To listen actively, it is important to provide good environment that speaker feels free to speak. Distance between speaker and listener, posture and body action of listener are important to provide good environment.
Observe the Movement of the Opponents Eyes
Active listening will continue to listen and listen to the other party without interrupting the other's story or guiding it with your own opinion. If you continue to listen to the other person's story, occasionally contradictory points or confusions may be found.
Changes due to the Way to Reply
You listen to the story of the other party actively when active listening. Express your interests with your body, encourage the other person to talk with great nodding. As a speaker, ease of talk changes greatly depending on how the listener responds.
Thought Methods
The active listeners will basically listen to the story of the other person without saying opinions, evaluation, advice etc. If you continue to listen to the other party's story, you will not be able to keep silent as a listener. Your opinion wants to go out from your mouth.
Application to Conversation
Active listening is effective not only as a psychological counseling technique but also as an effective communication method in conversation etc. By applying active listening to conversation, it is possible to communicate well.

Active Listening Effect

Stress Divergence Effect
Many people are engaged in social life without having a place to disclose their own troubles over time. They do something else to live while dissipating stress and trying to forget their troubles.
Favorable Effect
When receiving active listening, you can speak with your own thoughts without receiving opinions, evaluation, advice etc. You feel familiar with and have a favorable impression to the people who listened to your stories and accept your own words as they are.
Effects that can Obediently Express Feelings
In society, there is no chance to express emotions easily. Every day, most people live while killing emotions. People are forced to be alienated by society, and we can not go on to express emotions unnecessarily in the organization.
Effect of Finding a Clue for Self-solution
You can speak what you are suffering everyday by receiving active listening. In fact the troubles are often not organized in mind. Since you rather want to forget it, the memories are becoming ambiguous or misunderstanding.

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