Business, Thought, and Management Articles --- Active Listening Skills --- Stress Divergence Effect
Many people are engaged in social life without having a place to disclose their own troubles over time. They do something else to live while dissipating stress and trying to forget their troubles.
However, the accumulated troubles gradually become stressful in the mind. Stress will accumulate in you mind as dust and garbage accumulate if you do not clean your room.
At first, you can relieve stress with a little refreshing, sports and gambling, alcohol and so on. However, gradually it will become helpless with such stress dissipation methods, and it will become hard to forget even if you try to forget it.
At that time, if someone listen to you actively, you can talk about all the troubles that have accumulated in your mind, so you can relief your stress.
It is something that can not be done easily in everyday life, without worrying about time and other people, keeping saying what you want to say as much as you want. By receiving active listening, you can sweep out the troubles thrusting into you mind, the feelings you have endured.
Not only that. Sometimes when we talk about the troubles in our hearts that we were trying to forget, we can look back on the essence of trouble by ourselves and find hints for solutions.
People are often feel relieved from troubles and refreshed after receiving active listening. The stress dissipation effect contributes greatly to this.
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Definition
Active listening denotes listening method actively, being interested in, and accepting opponents' speech so as to listen until deep contents of speakers mind. Active listening is one of the counseling techniques.
Why Active Listening?
Why active listening now? How come does active listening technique spread as effective mental counseling technique, or as means of voluntary activity?
Nature of Human Mind
There is another reason that active listening is being focused at mental counseling. People do not say truth in deep mind easily on conversation, since they guard themselves against others. And, speaker is influenced by what listeners say immediately.
Distance, Posture, and Body Action
Active listening is to listen actively to the story the speaker says. To listen actively, it is important to provide good environment that speaker feels free to speak. Distance between speaker and listener, posture and body action of listener are important to provide good environment.
Observe the Movement of the Opponents Eyes
Active listening will continue to listen and listen to the other party without interrupting the other's story or guiding it with your own opinion. If you continue to listen to the other person's story, occasionally contradictory points or confusions may be found.
Changes due to the Way to Reply
You listen to the story of the other party actively when active listening. Express your interests with your body, encourage the other person to talk with great nodding. As a speaker, ease of talk changes greatly depending on how the listener responds.
Thought Methods
The active listeners will basically listen to the story of the other person without saying opinions, evaluation, advice etc. If you continue to listen to the other party's story, you will not be able to keep silent as a listener. Your opinion wants to go out from your mouth.
Application to Conversation
Active listening is effective not only as a psychological counseling technique but also as an effective communication method in conversation etc. By applying active listening to conversation, it is possible to communicate well.
Stress Divergence Effect
Many people are engaged in social life without having a place to disclose their own troubles over time. They do something else to live while dissipating stress and trying to forget their troubles.
Favorable Effect
When receiving active listening, you can speak with your own thoughts without receiving opinions, evaluation, advice etc. You feel familiar with and have a favorable impression to the people who listened to your stories and accept your own words as they are.
Effects that can Obediently Express Feelings
In society, there is no chance to express emotions easily. Every day, most people live while killing emotions. People are forced to be alienated by society, and we can not go on to express emotions unnecessarily in the organization.
Effect of Finding a Clue for Self-solution
You can speak what you are suffering everyday by receiving active listening. In fact the troubles are often not organized in mind. Since you rather want to forget it, the memories are becoming ambiguous or misunderstanding.
